I overheard some dads talking about their sons and their sports teams. It wasn’t the sort of talk I expected. They talked about how each son had to grow as a person as they got better at their sport. More than just learning the nuances of the game, they talked about how humbling it is to do everything right and still loose. It was how their sons reacted to those set-backs that made them proud. They also talked about kids who didn’t handle things so well.
As a musician you will have good days and bad days. It’s how you react to the bad that sets you apart. An immature artist will look for someone to blame and throw fits. It can destroy a band.
Be realistic. If someone was consistently going to the wrong chord or coming in late, decide if you need to practice together more or if you need a new person in that position. If it was you having a bad night, do the same thing. You can spend all your energy blaming someone else or you can man-up and work on getting better. When you’re immature it’s the hardest thing to do, but working through it is the best choice you can make.
There is a very obvious dividing point between someone who plays an instrument and an artist you’d want to work with. The immature member of a band stands out and is like a heavy weight the rest of the group has to drag along. But, when you get a group of artists together that have gotten past that, there is no limit to the success they’re capable of.
Hold yourself to that higher standard. Don’t make excuses. Own up to your skill level and work on improving. Do the same with the rest of the band. Hold each other to that standard. The immature part of you will fight at every step. Push through and you can go from being just alright to being great!
It isn’t easy. Some people will never let go of their childish impulses. They will only make excuses. Get as far away from them as quickly as you can. Don’t let them drag you down.
You can be the artists successful people want to work with. You can be the band people want to hire, and at a higher price. Pros want to work with people like themselves.
It’s a pretty exclusive club for good reason; the people who make it in don't stop working to get better.